Maternal Envy - Part One

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Long before the approach of separation in cases of intimate terrorism is a phenomena that eats away at the core of her very being. Some call it Maternal Alienation, but I feel that there is an even deeper aspect that is underlying the very structure of it. Many times before survivors have been able to name the jealousy that eats away at the ones they tried to love and easily interpret how male family members and even some friends were seen as a threat to these green eyed monsters, but rarely have we delved into the core of why these men stalk through the courts seeking to rob mothers of their children with such destructivity and ferocity. In the book of "Men and Masculinities" it creates an accurate picture of the envy that some fathers feel towards the bond between a mother and her child.

Intimate partner terrorists already expressing jealousy towards her achievements, friendships and talents, feels an overwhelming rage over this new bond. For the first time, he has no control over her and her relationship. The love and attention that pours into her baby within the first few months are often always more as his role in the spotlight diminishes. So to regain the control over these relationships, he indulges in his efforts to sever this new bond. Often the first choice is to conquer this new life and seek this child's unconditional love and obedience. Love in his world is complete submission to all his unworldly desires. If the child is a boy, he will dominate his education in the next generation of perpetrators. In his world, the boy must learn to see his mother as "below him". Displaying tyranny in front of the boy is the education that the intimate terrorist begins to teach, so he will learn that he must like his father, to cage these "wild women" to conform to his every need.

The Alienation Debate

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PAS against mothers and mothers only. Richard Gardner classed substantiated cases of child sexual abuse as "Alienation" He wanted to decriminalize pedophilia and wrote this in his books. Like Dean Tong, and many others who have been convicted for abusing their mothers and children use this as an excuse for their behavior.
Alienation originated from the studies conducted on the disclosures of convicted pedophiles. Maternal Alienation was part of a series of behaviors that was used to silence the child in the early grooming stages. The maternal bond is the strongest bond that the offender seeks to break. Once that this is broken, the child is truly isolated and groomed for the next stage.
Similar patterns have emerged in the studies of intimate partner terrorism that effects one in three women. Men guilty of these actions were cross classes and professions, some lingered in psychology like the infamous Richard Gardner whom knew that if he could twist such a thing around and gather the support of divorced fathers - Many would flock to his uprising.
On a global level mothers are the ones that are truly alienated in the media, the law, schools and culture in general. We are seen as a great burden to society despite our tireless efforts.
Fathers Rights tend to try and equalize something that cannot be truly equal unless it were scientifically possible for fathers to bear the birth of children. Instead it is something tyrannical and quite sinister to consider women as merely "baby factories" with no added rights to balance the unbalanced scales. In the encyclopedia for men and masculinities it states that some men experience a maternal jealousy of the maternal bond and whilst some rise above such things, others manifest in dysfunctional manners. The bond between a mother and a child is always stronger than of the father as the baby hears the mothers voice and is soothed subconsciously by her later on.
Paternal alienation perceives any expression of closeness such as breast-feeding, concerns for the child's well being and loving interactions as something sinister and vindictive. Thus the maternal jealously rages on in a court room run mostly by men.
The evidence of domestic violence does not get through because Australia has the second highest globally male dominated police force.
It is in fact impossible to say that men have a disadvantage in the courts because 70% of the legislation is male dominated. Most of the media is run by men and the few women who speak of women's issues are coined as "feminazis"

Effective lies to get Custody...

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I write this, because I have faith that many mothers understand the consequences they face when the child becomes an adult and don't lie in custody battles unless they are intimidated to conceal the abuse. I have decided to debunk this silly charade with some lies that would be far more effective in custody battles:
My ex is a terrorist - There are far more protections and you are treated with more dignity for reporting these crimes.
I left because he slept with a man - There are few family courts that support the rights of people who are gay.
He is a satanic worshipper - Most Family courts are heavily influenced by christian philosophies, particularly the patriarchal ideals which often get in the way of the "best Interests of the child".
He writes articles on feminism- Anyone man or women who have feminist ideals in these courts are treated poorly.
He has delusions of Grandeur - Case dismissed!